Ramadan Kareem

It is Ramadan and I am thanking Allah for giving me another opportunity to fast during this Holy month .
This is a great time for me because there is hope that I might be blessed and that my repentance might be accepted inshAllah.
This is also a great time because I am feeling so much freedom right now. I am not blindly rushing around as I am trying my best to concentrate on worship.

Alhamdulillah, it is a time of reflection for me too.
Am I good mother, a good wife, a good daughter, a good friend?
How am I living my life? Am I striving towards the Dunya or the Akhira?
Am I happy? If I am not happy, is it because I am disobeying Allah wa ta Ala?
What changes should I make in my life?

As you can see, I have a lot to think about so I won’t be blogging until the end of Ramadan but I hope to see you soon inshAllah

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Once upon a time…Britain in Crisis

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Every day, the Zombies are coming out of their homes,
Running around, wondering if it will get them anywhere.
They are stuck in damp houses, stuck on the Rental market,
Doors are slammed in their faces, they will never own a home.

The inflation is rising endlessly,
Mocking their ridiculously low-paid jobs.
Slaving away, they are edging towards mental illness.
Their country is going downhill but Osborne says Recovery is happening.

When the Zombies are coming home,
Their children are not bubbly anymore.
Ofsted is taking over their mummies,
And their parents are about to split on a row over an unchanged nappy.

Autism/Special Needs friendly?

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I like Special Needs’ friendly events

Mainstreams allowing some time to cater for disabled individuals …is great!

Although some people might find it discriminatory, I like this concept.

For once, our folk are not forced to fit in. For once, the Politically-correct behaviour is not the ultimate goal of the Day. For once, not having the “London look” is ok! (lol just forget that last sentence)

But on a more serious note, these days mean a big “Ppppppppppppphhhhhhhhhhhhhhhheeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeewwwwwwwwwwwwww” of relief for us, parents!

These events are also opportunities to meet some extraordinary parents, siblings, relatives or workers. Truly inspirational people

But first and foremost, these events are for me an eye-opener. The Prophet (PBUH), said: “Look upon one who is below you in status. In this way you will not look down upon the grace of that God bestowed upon you.” (Bukhari and Muslim)

Below are a couple of events and activities taking place in the London area:
* Special Children’s day at London Zoo: http://www.zsl.org/zsl-london-zoo/whats-on/special-childrens-day-2013,586,EV.html

* SEN Session at London Transport Museum: http://www.ltmuseum.co.uk/learning/schools/65-sen/sen-sessions-module-list/336-is-this-the-way-home39

* Autism friendly film screening: http://www.dimensions-uk.org/what-we-do/autism-care/autism-friendly-films/

* The Train Club: http://www.theengineshed.org.uk

*Disability swimming sessions ( These take place in my borough. It might be happening in yours too. Worth researching about it)

* Yoga sessions (These are organized by my local parent support group. You might think about developing a similar concept in your area if not available already). Please see my post about the benefits of Yoga: Outings and activities for children on the Spectrum Part 3

Woolwich Attack

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I am deeply shocked by what happened yesterday in Woolwich. I am from East London and my husband used to work in North Woolwich.
I love East London and its diverse community.
My neighbours are Polish,
my GP is Indian,
my chemist is Pakistani,
my Butcher is Algerian,
my children’s childminder is Indian
my daughter’s teacher and Teaching assistant are English,
My daughter’s Minibus driver is Carribean
The Minibus’ hostess is English
Etc, etc,etc…
East London is far from being a well –off area but Alhamdulillah in tough Economic times like today, we are still a strong and bounded community.

To these nutters , I ‘d like to say, you don’t represent me or Islam. What you did yesterday was just an expression of your own Madness. Shame on you for disgracing our Religion! Please don’t tell us that you did it for Afghanistan or Irak! You did it only for yourselves because you’re just a bunch of crazy attention seekers! Ask the people of Iraq or Afghanistan if what you did is improving the state they are in. Far from it, you may just have set them up to even more reprisals!

What also shocked me is the fact that so many people gathered around the crime scene, filming these idiots , as per their requests.
A man was just stabbed and the only thing people could do instead of running away was to stand there and film. I think we should blame Reality TV for this type of attitude. A man had just been brutally killed and people didn’t even respect the dignity of his corpse. They filmed it! You guys kind of cooperate with these idiots because that is what they wanted: PUBLICITY. Imagine if this guy had been one your family members, you would not have appreciated people to violate his sanctity as a Human being! What’s wrong with you people???

Ultimately, I ‘d like to salute the bravery of the lady who tried to rescue the victim without fearing for her own life and the other lady who tried to get the weapons from one the killers. MashAllah, these women are heroes!

Spiritual healing and Islamic remedies

Being a parent is hard.

Being a good parent is even harder…

Being parent of a “healthy child” is not always easy.

Being parent of a disabled or sick child is not easy at all.

When your “healthy” little one is struggling with a running nose, does your heart not ache?

Just imagine how it feels for a parent when the disease, the condition or disability is overwhelming, when there seem to be no way out…

At this point, the heart is not simply aching but the heart is breaking helplessly.

Allah Wa Ta Ala informed us that he would test us through our children and he did it with me. However, instead of constantly moaning, I like to focus on the idea that behind any hardship, there is a Khayr, and behind any illness, there is a cure!

When we are looking for a cure for our children, we tend to run to our GP or to quickly grab some “modern” medication (which is good Alhamdulillah, I am not saying that we shouldn’t)

However, our minds are going so much all over the place that we often forget about The Holy Quran which is a Shifaa (a cure) in itself. We are also prone to neglect the natural remedies and practices taught by the Best of Men, our Prophet, Mohammad, Alayhi Salam.

As instructed by our dear Prophet Alayhi Salam, make sure that your family holds firm to the Quran:

_Recite it and meditate

_Play it at home and turn off the Blasting TV

_Do your Adhkaar

_ Seek Allah’s protection for your children with the Dua that can be found in Fortress of the Muslim*

_ Perform Ruqyah on yourself if necessary

Working on your relationship with your Creator, nurturing Imaan in your children and experimenting the sweetness of Imaan will inshAllah reflect on your family’s health and well-being. And this is first a reminder  for myself.

Now, below is a list of the Islamic remedies that I am using for my daughter:

Senna Leaves To treat my daughter ‘s bowel movements/constipation issues. Generally in an infusion. Not to be taken regularly as it is quite strong
Black Seed oil As many Autistic children, my daughter’s immune system is quite weak. A spoon every day in her Orange juice or mixed with some honey. Black Seed oil is known for many other benefits, just google it!
Miswak My daughter hates the vigorous feel of the toothbrush. So I always try to be quick. But too quick means risk of caries. So on top of it, I am using the Miswak which she finds quite amusing because of its form.
Olive oil
“The Prophet (Alayhi Salam) said: “Eat the oil and use it on your hair and skin, for it comes from a blessed tree.” (Reported by al-Tirmidhi)

For more info about the benefits of these remedies, please go to Google.com!

Also, this is a very tiny list, there are many other remedies mashAllah! Islamic medicine is so fascinating! Just go for it!

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I AM BACK

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I have not been blogging for ages !!! I needed a break, some time for myself.

Although I was absent, I didn’t have proper time for myself. I guess it is the reality of being a mother.

Alhamdulillah, at least, I just stood back and contemplated my achievements, my failures, my strengths and my weaknesses. I now feel the need to fix myself and not exclusively the others.

But here am I…I am back!!!