Addressing this subject and researching about it are draining me emotionally. You can find so many links on google by simply typing Autism and Abuse on the search box. But come on, let’s break the Ice in order to eradicate Abuse O-N-C-E A-N-D F-O-R A-L-L InshAllah
The Family Unit
First and foremost, I would like to salute the effort and honesty of DESIblitz.com* for recently releasing an article ” The Asian Stigma with Disability”**. To acknowledge spontaneously ones shortcomings may not be “in” but MashAllah it is incredibly brave . Self-criticism is definitely the right track towards rectification, progress and InshAllah Success. Although DESIblitz ‘aim was to depict behaviours spotted within the Asian community, I would like to make clear that these are also seen among other ethnic groups.
Ignorance, lack of understanding , lack of education or denial, on their own or combined, may result in devastating consequences in the lives of those affected by disabilities.In this regard, DESIblitz quoted some examples of verbal abuse such as being openly mocked at Family gatherings, being called names such as “sick” , “mad” or being accused of playing the “disability card” out oflaziness. This sets the perfect tone for a sexual predator and/ or a physical abuser to hit with great impunity.The “Sick or mad” is a very easy target, served on a plate by his own family who openly denied his right to be respected and treated with dignity. If the victim manages to report the abuser to one of his family member, he may find nobody willing to confront the perpretator and advocate for him. The scandal will be hidden under the family carpet and the abuser will re-offend as much as he wishes. DESIblitz even provided us with the following tragic example: ‘In a slum in India, a mother refused to allow her daughter to be taken away to an institution, although her father was abusing her, saying: “At least here she is only abused by one person.” ‘ SubhanAllah! A child you carried for 9 months, your skin and your blood…
I am now done with this subject. It has been really hard , really really hard but it’s worth it. These things have to be openly condemned as being evil and reprehensible. I am ready to fight for my daughter to be safe as well as every single individual inshAllah. What about you?
*DESIblitz.com is an online magazine which readership is of British Asian descent. http://www.desiblitz.com
** ” The Asian Stigma with Disability”:http://www.desiblitz.com/content/the-asian-stigma-with-disability