The Prophet (salallahu alayhi wa sallam) said: “The Believers, in their mutual love, mercy and compassion, are like one body: if one organ complained, the rest of the body develops a fever.” [Bukhari & Muslim]
A lot of our brothers and sisters accross the Globe are going through hardship and Alhamdulillah our community is very receptive to it. We seem to strive to provide a quick and effective response to their needs via awareness campaigns, donations, demonstrations or boycotts .
But how unfortunate it is that we ignore the sufferings of those who are leaving at our doorsteps?
Alhamdulillah, by the Grace of Allah, more and more people are entering the fold of Islam. With nowadays’ social climate, this is probably one of the bravest things to do.Our new brothers and sisters have sometimes to do drastic changes in their everyday life. They might even loose friends they have known all of their lives or be let down by their own family.
The least they should expect from us is support. Do you know that most reverts celebrate Eid on their own? Alhamdulillah I was thrilled with my local moske’s initiave on last Eid organizing a lunch for reverts and those who were on their own. Please, be there for your new brothers and sisters in the Deen so that they could feel that they are part of a big family that cares for them. You can also support or get involved in charities and associations such as Solace* or The Revert Muslims Association**.
The divorcees, the single mothers and their offsprings
A divorce, whether it is a Talaq or a Khula, whether it has been chosen or imposed, is not an an easy affair. Both spouses are usually left devastated, struggling emotionally and/or financially.
Nowadays, we are all so busy with our lives, rushing around, juggling between studies, work, married life, children, relatives and friends.But that should not put us off from trying to assist. We should find a compromise geared to our timetables. Why not visiting them, accompanying them to appointments, calling them , emailing them or texting them?
From another perspective, the very last thing we should do is to belittle them or look down upon them. Sadly, I have witnessed that type of behaviours from some sisters who consider divorcees as outcasts and to some extent would even cut off any relationship with them. Duh!!! As if being a divorcee was a contagious disease! This kind of behaviour possibly reflects that the person is not in a happy marriage, Allahu Ahlam.What is clear is that there is not such thing in the Sunnah. The Prophet ( Salallahu Alayhi Wa Salam) married his cusin, Zaynab (Radi Allahu Anha) who was a divorcee.
Victims of Domestic Violence
“There is no place for Domestic Violence in Islam!” Alhamdulillah, last year, Nour DV*** in partnership with local moskes and imams in London set up a campaign to tackle this issue. Imams were adressing this topic on Jummah prayers and on Islamic TV channels. However, DV is still taboo topic for a part of our community. Although in Islam it is a 100% valid reason for divorce, victims often feel ashamed to speak out . I do believe that the worst justification for remaining silent is when it comes to preserving the family’s honour. What a disgrace! There is no honour in having an oppressor part of ones family.
Individuals with disabilities
Allah Wa ta ala has created all of us. He has created some of us black, some of us white. Some of us tall, some of us short. Some of us petite, Some of us chubby. Some of us ill, some of us healthy. Some of us with disabilities, some of us with none. Some of us with mental disabilities and some of us with physical disabilities. Allah Wa ta Ala mentioned in the Koran that he created us in nations so that we get to know each other. Nowhere did he state and no hadith does recall that we are allowed to mock A-N-Y-O-N-E because of his social status, ethnic background or IQ. (By the way, don’t get me wrong,I don’t consider these criterias as disabilities)
Let me go back now to disabilities and autism. This is painful when I see children laughing at my daughter because she keeps on repeting words or sentences. This is her way of processing information.Laughing becomes then ridiculouswhen you actually know why she is doing it, isn’t? Don’t let ignorance turn you into a silly person. Ask if you are puzzled. SubhanAllah, that is a sign of cleverness!
I don’t feel anger towards these children because at the end of the day, it is their parents’ role to explain that such behaviour is unacceptable. But believe me or not, a lot of parents won’t intervene. How can they tell them off when their kids are just copying them. You send your child to the Madrassa, you encourage him to memorize the Koran but at the same time, you don’t prevent him from ending up as a bully. Bullying is oppression. Oppression is darkness on the Day of Judgement. Beware! The one who is oppressed, if he supplicates to Allaah against the oppressor then there is no barrier which stops his supplication going up to Allaah to be answered.
So my last exhortation would be: let’s be muslims, let’s be tolerant, let’s be respectful and let’s be generous! InshAllah
** The Revert Muslims Association:www.revertmuslims.com
*** Nour DV: www.nour–dv.org.uk